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The House That Pinterest Built

Posted by James on September 22, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Diane Keaton, Diane Keaton Home, Factory, Pinterest House, Vintage Factory Pendants. 8 Comments

It’s no secret that I share some style loves with Diane Keaton.

Diane Keaton in the House that Pinterest Built

We both love weathered metal, factory pendants, obviously stacks of books and magazines, Navajo rugs, vintage signs and Bauer pottery.

Her favorite fashion designer, also happens to be my favorite fashion designer.

I’ve shared a couple of her homes before, but this new one really blew my mind….so much to love here. I’m more than a little obsessed.

Kitchen in the House that Pinterest Built

Vintage Kitchen Pendants in the House That Pinterest Built

Vintage Factory Clock in the House that Pinterest Built

Cabinet of Goodies in the House That Pinterest Built

Dining Room in the House That Pinterest Built

Fireplace inside the House that Pinterest Built

 

White Metal Vintage Bed

Guest Room Inside Daine Keaton's Pinterest House

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Edison Bulbs Hanging from Plumbing Pipe

Vintage Factory Pendants over an Old Cart

The downstairs sitting room at Diane Keaton's home in Pacific Palisades, CA.

Black and White Portraits gridded in the House that Pinterest Built

The master bedroom at Diane Keaton's home in Pacific Palisades, CA.

Library Ladder in the House that Pinterest Built

Library in the House That Pinterest Built

Living Room of the House that Pinterest Built

Reading Nook in the Pinterest House

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Courtyard of the House that Pinterest Built

Brick Exterior

Vintage California Sign

What did I tell ya?

Amazeballz, right?

Diane created a space that feels both old and new at the same time.

For the first time, she used Pinterest to create inspiration boards for the build and decor. Then chronicled the journey in her newest book The House that Pinterest Built. I’ve been addicted to Pinterest for years.

Don’t get too attached to this house though, Diane never does. If her history serves as an example, I guarantee this one will be on the market within a year and she will be on to her next house project.

And I already can’t wait to see it….

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50 Years of Ralph Lauren

Posted by James on September 11, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: #RL50, POLO, Polo50, Ralph Lauren, Ralph Lauren 50th, Ralph LAuren 50th Anniversary Fashion Show, RRL. 47 Comments

Whenever I run into old high school friends or fraternity brothers, and I tell them that I’m working for Ralph Lauren, the response is always the same,

“Of course you are.”

When I was 13 years-old my mother bought me a pale orange oxford shirt with a polo player on the left chest. I wore that shirt everywhere, and with everything. I knew that it was more than just a piece of clothing …. it was a way of life. That perfect American life I’d seen advertised between the pages of Vanity Fair magazine – Bruce Webber images of guys riding horses, and families lounging on boats or playing touch football on the overly green lawn of a Hampton’s estate. It was from that moment on, I only wanted to wear shirts with four letters on the label….

P. O. L. O.

The walls of my bedroom were plastered with Ralph Lauren ads torn from Esquire and GQ. I didn’t save my baby-sitting money for a car like my friends were doing – I never really wanted one. I spent every dollar I had in the boy’s Polo department at Bloomingdale’s on bright-colored knits. I needed twice as many because I wore them layered two at a time, both collars flipped towards the heavens.

My first cologne; Polo green. I spritzed my sheets, my school locker, my Guinea pig.

In my teens, while most of my friends were experimenting with goth and new wave styles, I was in the full throes of W.A.S.P.  I didn’t wear Reebok’s, my shoe of choice was a basic white tennis shoe with Polo on the heel. Socks, if I was wearing them, had a little man on a horse on each side.

I went through fraternity RUSH in cuffed white shorts and a navy cardigan sweater with big brass buttons. I was the frat guy who wore madras ties to keggers – madras that I meticulously matched to the pink and green in the fraternity crest on my navy blazer – the navy blazer I wore with everything. I mean, is there such a thing as a “navy blazer phase”? Because I had one.

Who made my first adult suit? You guessed it – Ralph Lauren. I had to put it on lay-a-way to afford it. It was a double-breasted, navy blue pinstripe number with peak lapels. I felt like Cary Grant every time I wore it.

But my passion wasn’t limited to just clothes anymore; there was the comforter that looked like a faded map of the Sarah desert, and china that could have come from a 1940’s roadside diner, candles that smelled like the ocean, serape beach towels and paint that mimicked the texture of suede …. it never stopped. I surrounded myself with the timeless designs of everything Ralph Lauren. He was the first fashion designer to produce anything other than clothes.

Lately, I have been hoarding Polo “conversational” ties from the 90s. Those are the ones with pictures of fishermen, or race cars, or maybe just one big cowboy boot emblazoned across them; a little reminiscent of the ties gangsters in 1940s movies would wear. I scour eBay for styles I’ve never seen before, or different color ways of old favorites …. or what I like to call “back ups”. (That means it’s one I already have) Jamie rolls his eyes every time I receive a soft, pillowy envelope in the mail. He knows it’s another never-to-be-worn, used tie.

Relax. At least I’m not buying crystal meth.

Do I wear any of the 150-200 I’ve amassed? No, not really. But I’m not parting with any either.

I’m not that natty of a dresser anymore.

In my later years I go more for comfort; overly washed western shirts, mended jeans and espadrilles is pretty much how I roll. Still faithful to my favorite fashion designer though. After all, I shop in one of his stores about 60 hours a week – I’ve been working in Ralph Lauren creative services since 2004.

I do wear a tie about twice a year. (I average about one funeral and one Broadway show per.)

I’ve recently discovered the importance of having a shirt with a front pocket. I used to scoff at the old men who would shuffle into Macy’s and complain about every shirt that was sans front pocket. Now I enjoy a place to stash my readers, and notes I’ve jotted down and medication that I have to wait and take with food. As I sit on an airplane writing these very words I’m wearing a shirt with TWO front pockets. One holds my phone and the other; my glasses, a wad of napkins, and the Visa card I intend to “quick draw” and pay for my bloody Mary. (The wad of napkins is for dabbing the tomato juice out of my mustache)

I’m on a flight returning from New York City ….. with a carefully rolled tie in my carry on.

No, I wasn’t attending a musical, or even a funeral.

That 13-year-old boy that I once was would never believe where I’ve been ….. at the Ralph Lauren 50th anniversary fashion show.

I opened my email Thursday afternoon and saw this…

Congratulations
Honestly, I stopped breathing.
Of the 200 seats available for the 50th Anniversary fashion show, a small handful were raffled off to RL employees (of which there are currently about 30,000) and I was chosen.
I got a golden ticket.
This was the day before the show. 27 hours before.
I have never bought a plane ticket that fast in my life….
The show was being held at the Bethesda Fountain in Central Park – one of my absolute favorite New York landmarks and a favorite of Mr. Lauren’s as well.
Jamie and I were there just a couple years ago.
James and Jamie in front of the Bethesda Fountain
40 years ago, Woody Allen filmed Annie Hall here. Not only did the movie bring Diane Keaton an Oscar, it also introduced her to the young Ralph Lauren who created the “Annie Hall” Look for her character; integrating Men’s sportswear and ties. The two have been dear friends ever since and Dianne Keaton still dresses that way.
The platform above the fountain was the opening reception with 14 huge monitors streaming highlights of previous runway shows. “Ralph Lauren’s Greatest Hits” you might say. It was just spectacular.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBjGcSv9DJc
I hear that this digital experience will be touring to a few stores around the country over the next few months.
My dates for the evening were my beautiful coworkers; Trinh, Bozena (my other Polish mother), and Becca.
The Cew for the Ralph Lauren 50th Fashion Show
Trinh and Becca are “senior sellers” and have already been to a few fashion shows. Bo has been working for us for 27 years now, and like me, this is her first show too.
Mr Lauren’s people filled the pedestrian tunnel under 72nd St transverse with patch-worked Persian rugs and pale green velvet benches. I’ve been in this tunnel before …. but I don’t remember it being nearly this beautiful.
The Venue for the Ralph Lauren 50th Anniversary Fashion Show 2
I was honestly content to just stand in the back and watch the show but Bo grabbed my hand and lead me to a bench at the bottom of the steps and across from a row of reserved seats.
That’s the back of my head there. You can see Bo’s red hair in front of me.
Back of my Head in the Big Room at theRalph Lauren 50th anniversary Show
I also managed to photo bomb this pic.
Me and Bo at the Ralph Lauren 50th Anniversary Collection Show
After a few minutes, Ralph’s oldest son, Andrew, appeared and sat in one of those reserved seats.
“Bo, I’ll bet we’re sitting across from the Lauren family”
Sure enough, within a few minutes, Mr Lauren’s children and their spouses were assembled almost directly across from us. I’ve known all of their faces for decades. His lovely wife Ricky, in a shimmery gold pant suit, was the last to arrive.
The Lauren Family at the 50th Anniversary Fashion Show
The lights dimmed, Dion and Paul Simon started singing New York is My Home, and the show began.
As the models slowly descended the stairs I realized that these looks were inspired by my favorite of all Mr. Lauren’s muses …. the bohemian girl. Anything goes with this chick. If her baggy cardigan is too loose, she wraps an old leather belt around it. She likes these kinds of contrasts and would confidently wear a baseball shirt with a beaded skirt or a plaid flannel work shirt over an evening gown. There were rich velvets and brocades in jewel tones mixed with buttery leathers and what could have been heirloom chandelier earrings.
I was really in for a treat, because for the very first time the high-fashion models on the Ralph Lauren catwalk were accompanied by men in Double RL. (The vintage inspired men’s line named after the Lauren’s cattle ranch in Telluride Colorado; The RRL Ranch) I recognized a couple of the guys as RRL collectors that I stalk on Instagram. There’s not much advertising for this line and because the pieces are made in such limited quantities there’s a cult-like demand for them on the secondary market. Most of my favorite wardrobe pieces are RRL.
Ralph Lauren 50th Anniversary Collection Collage
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As I sat there listening to Bruce Springsteen’s Secret Garden echoing through the space, my eyes started to swell.
This was really happening.
I was really here.
The show ended with Gigi Hadid slowly climbing the stairs in a strapless crazy quilt-like gown with an American flag carefully entwined in the patchwork. Pure genius.
Gigi Retreating up the Stairs
But Ralph wasn’t done yet,
Neil Diamond belted out Forever in Blue Jeans and then there were children, and couples, whole familys even, walking down the steps. It was the Polo line, mixed and reimagined as street wear. There was something for everyone here, young and old. All the preppy staples were still there; tweed sport coats, plaid flannels, and club ties – and of course the heritage school pieces like baseball jackets, rugby shirts and Letterman sweaters – as well as Ralph’s icons; the American flag sweater and the Polo bear. (They even worked in one of those vintage graphic ties I love) It was the Polo I grew up with …. have been living with …. only more relaxed.
This was Ralph’s America.
Ralph Lauren 50th Anniversary Polo Collection Collage
Ralph Lauren 50th Anniversary Polo Collection Collage 2

The models – a few I recognized as friends and family of other employees, even Pierce Brosnan’s son, Paris – well over 100 at this point, gathered on the steps. As the last notes of Neil Diamond’s America was playing the crowd parted and Mr. Ralph Lauren made his way down to the front.

There he was.

The man whose name was printed along the waistband of my underwear.

Mr Lauren at the Finale of the 50th Anniversary Fashion Show

We all leapt to our feet and he humbly thanked us for supporting him these past 50 years. He was just a Jewish kid from the Bronx who knew nothing about fashion and wanted to make pretty ties …. and now he was all of this.

I lost it and cried some more.

I never imagined that I would get this opportunity one day……

I’m genuinely honored that I can use my talents to help promote Ralph Lauren.
A man, that I truly do believe in.
Of course I do, he’s been a part of me for more than three-fourths of my life
Happy 50th anniversary Mr Lauren.
If you wanna see the show, and you should, it’s available to watch now at RalphLauren.com.
“Am I buying anything from the show?” you may ask.
You better believe it, I’m ordering these yellow cords with the writing all over them.
Julia and Kajus in Look 100
“Of course you are.”

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The Lesser of Two Weevils

Posted by James on September 8, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Bed Bugs, Carpet Beetles. 21 Comments

Out of the corner of my eye I saw something move across the sheets.

A tiny brown speck a little larger than a sesame seed. But a sesame seed on a mission – a mission to crawl across my bed.

It was in my bed and it was a bug

Bed + Bug = BED BUG

I scooped it into a nearby water-glass and immediately started ripping apart our master bed.

If you’ve even seen our bed, you know that there are a lot of layers. Comforter; immediately into the washing machine on EXTRA hot. Down duvet; TRASH. Sheets and pillowcases; pile on the garage floor and into the washer immediately after the comforter. (Always separate your colors, even in times of infestation) Limited Edition Pendleton blanket (that everyone offers to buy); Zip-Loc bagged and into the freezer for now, dry cleaners the very next morning. Feather bed; TRASH. Heating pad; TRASH. Pillow inserts; TRASH.

What happened next was an atomic level of vacuuming. And trust me, I know how to obsess with a vacuum cleaner. I vacuumed that mattress like I was Christina and Joan Crawford was standing behind me with 2 wire hangers in her hand. Didn’t really matter, because I was dragging it to the street anyway; as soon as I was satisfied…that Joan herself would be satisfied. My mind was already racing about buying that new mattress/box spring combo, and I might as well order a new sisal rug from Pottery Barn too, because the current rug was also going to the street.

I know enough about bed bugs to look in all the mattress crevices.  That’s where they hide…AND lay eggs. (Insert shudder here) Our mattress and box spring are actually covered in a tiny blue polka dot pattern that is absolutely maddening when one is searching for insects that are the size of…well, tiny blue polka dots.

Still, even with a magnifying glass and a flashlight, I wasn’t finding any creepy crawlies.

I dragged the mattress off the box spring and resumed with the vacuum. Still nothing. Until I lifted up the box spring and looked underneath. 2 more little brownish/yellow bugs moving slowly across the black lining. I flicked each of them into the glass with the first intruder.

The first bug was overjoyed (I’m assuming) with the companionship and immediately climbed on top of the bug closest to him for a humping session. Great…I was his “wingman”.

True story; for a brief moment in grade school I wanted to be an entomologist – although I’m pretty sure that I called it a “Bug Scientist” at the time. I was always bringing home crickets, praying mantis, monarch caterpillars, water striders, black widows, big red harvester ants, cicadas and anything else with six or more legs that I could coerce into a Miracle Whip jar with air holes poked into the lid. I’m still fascinated by insects. Just ask Jamie. I talk to the honey bees and garden spiders in our yard every time I see them and last summer I thought I had a pretty good relationship going with the praying mantis that lived on our back deck. I’ve held off hiring an exterminator just so I can keep these little interactions. Sure, about once a month I might see a palmetto bug scurry across the kitchen floor (they sneak under the garage door and eat Harley’s dog food) but that’s the price I was willing pay just to keep a one-sided relationship with a feral praying mantis.

But not anymore – I draw the line at being something’s dinner while I sleep – these buggers were going down.

I called Orkin then next morning.

But something about the bugs I was finding in our room didn’t seem right. They were beautiful; richly colored and almost velvet-like. Not the blood-engorged monsters that kept popping up with Google and Bing.

So I tried searching under “Bugs That Resemble Bed Bugs”.

And there they were, carpet beetles. Makes sense because they looked just like Persian rugs. (I know you can’t tell in this picture, so you’ll just have to believe me)

Carpet Beetles

Not bloodsuckers, but still invasive. They eat mohair teddy bears, Pendleton blankets and cashmere sweaters. All favorite things of mine.

So that you, gentle readers, may learn from the wisdom of our experience, here’s a few of the common household invaders that might be mistaken for bed bugs;

These Aren't Bed Bugs

Fingers crossed that none of you will ever have to deal with that kind of stress.

The Orkin man arrived, 3.5 hours after our scheduled appointment, the next day and confirmed my conclusion.

NOT bed bugs. WHEW. Huge Relief.

Actually, he said they were tobacco beetles, but he was clearly wrong.

They were carpet beetles.

Trust me, I was going to be a entomologist when I was 9.

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Heavy is the Master Bedroom that Wears the Crown

Posted by James on June 17, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Crown Moulding, Master Bedroom. 24 Comments

There are lots of projects that have been on hold for the past 8 years.

Crown molding is one of them.

I’m a good (some may argue “Great”) painter, but even I can’t fix paint lines like this…

Wall Over Coats

Don’t see it? Here, let me get a little closer….

Close Up Of Wall Over Coats

I know. How have we managed this long?

There’s always been a plan to add some sort of crown molding to most of our rooms, but we’re not “formal” guys. And crown molding seems so, well….. you know, formal.

Here’s my solution.

3 flat boards, already primed BTW; 1 – 1″X4″ and 2 – 1″X2″

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applied like so….

Master Crown Collage

(Of course, 4 inches is really 3 1/2″ and 2 inches is really 1 3/4″ because wood shrinks after it’s cut. I don’t understand it either because all they have to do is cut the wood slightly larger so it shrinks to the appropriate size, but that seems to be too clever for the lumber industry and none of this seems to bother straight guys, so this is what I’m dealing with.)

Back on subject: I measured all the walls in our decent sized master bedroom….

How Much Trim

…and after a quick trip to the Home Depot, I started trimming the edge of the ceiling in the master bedroom with the 1″X4″s.

Installing the 1 X 4

Then I layered the smaller boards on top.

Almost Finished Crown in Corner

Amazing already,

I spackled the holes, used white bathroom caulk on all the seams, and painted it the same glossy white as all the rest of the trim in the house.

‘Till it looked like this……

New Crown Over Coat Rack

Crown Over Window and Desk

New Crown Over Jeff's Whitetail Deer

Soooooooooo much better,

Am I right?

Now on to do the rest of the casa….

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Costa Rica 2018

Posted by James on May 27, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Arenal Volcano, Costa Rica, Eyelash Viper, La Fortuna, La Fortuna Waterfall, Mistico Hanging Bridges, Playa Conchal, Tabacon Resort, The Pecks. 23 Comments

If you’re a true fan of this blog, you’ll remember our dear friends the Pecks.

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Kylie and I worked at Macy’s together about 30 years ago. She met Gert at the hotel they both worked at and the two of them were married on Maui, in a rain forest, on a bridge, over a koi pond. Ahhhhh…… Jamie and I were there for the wedding ceremony, and through an odd turn of events…..we shared infiltrated their entire honeymoon too.

Didn’t mean too….. but we did.

We’ve shared many adventures/vacations since then, but it’s been a running joke that we would tag along on their 10 year anniversary trip as well. It’s been 10 years, and they’ve added 2 kids to their tribe (Madeleine-5, and Henrik-2), so the 6 of us hopped on an American Airlines flight to beautiful Costa Rica for a week.

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Here are some of the highlights of that trip…

Costa Rica License Plate

Costa Rica’s Arenal Volcano is honestly just slightly older than I am.

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In 1968 the La Fortuna area countryside suddenly erupted and the Arenal Volcano pushed her way to the surface. It wasn’t long after that the local women washing their clothes in the natural springs noticed the water was much warmer than it used to be; hovering around 100 degree to be precise. We spent a few days just outside of La Fortuna at the Tabacon Thermal Resort and Spa where they have learned to capitalize on the natural hot springs anomaly.

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I can honestly say that I’ve never stayed at a more beautiful tropical property. The warm soaking springs running throughout are surrounded with lush tropical plants, iguana, hummingbirds, and some of the biggest insects I’ve ever encountered.

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Tabacon 2-collage

It was pure heaven,

Jamie in the Tabacon Waters

Our fist excursion took us to the Arenal Hanging Bridges of Mistico Park, a private nature reserve. There’s more that 2 miles of wilderness hiking trails with 6 suspension bridges hanging over the dense rainforest. The highest, the Waterfall Bridge, is over 300 feet above the forest floor…..and the Catarata Morpho Azul (Blue Morpho Waterfall), naturally.

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With over 300 species of exotic birds, 700 species of fauna, and a smattering of central American animals, like the coatimundi ……there was plenty to keep us all entertiained. Except Henri, who fell asleep in his sherpa pack.

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Jamie's Cotimundi

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Madeleine brought her magnifying glass, which came in handy when we crossed paths with leaf-cutter ants.

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While the Pecks enjoys some family time, Jamie and I took a morning trip to the La Fortuna Waterfall. Because it was off-season, we were the only ones in our tour group…and for a little while, the only ones at the waterfall. (except for a dirty hippie couple, but we’re not counting them).

It’s 500 steps to the bottom of the valley, along a pretty steep cliff. We took 10 minutes to descend; and 30 minutes to ascend….with amply resting time, of course. No one ever said it, but I know the people passing us on their way down were thinking “Los Americanos Delicatos”.

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La Fortuna Waterfall Collage

My pictures don’t do it justice…it was so beautiful. See the rainbow over my head? We swam a little in the frigid water before taking our sweet-ass time climbing the 500 steps back to the parking lot in flip-flops. Because of our slow accension, our tour guide, Daveed, was able to spot a deadly eyelash viper just hanging out in a tree about 20 feet from our path. You’re welcome.

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He’s called an “eyelash” viper because of the protruding scales over his eyes that resemble eyelashes. They aren’t aggressive snakes, but have been known to strike humans in the neck if they feel threatened. *Interesting fact: of the 23 deadly snakes in Costa Rica, only 22 have antivenoms available. Luckily, we didn’t need any, but we did start looking for snakes at head level.…and not just around our feet.

After a few days in La Fortuna we headed west and took a 3 hour drive to the Westin Resort at Playa Conchal near Tamarindo.

Another day, another waterfall. Took some time to stop at the Catarata Llanos del Cortes (Cortes Plains Waterfall). It was a nice break from the 3 hour drive to take a dip in the cool green/brown water for a little while.

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Playa Conchal was so beautiful. I assumed from the name that it would be covered in sea shells…and it was. Sort of. Unfortunately, the sand is composed entirely of smashed shells. Hence the name; Playa Conchal (Sea Shell Beach).

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Playa Conchal Collage

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On friday, we took an early morning trip to the Palo Verde National Park and had a short boat ride on the Rio Tempisque.  After about an hour of the “Costa Rican Massage” (That’s traveling down dirt roads with no shocks) we arrived at the muddy river and a few small passenger boats where we were given a private tour. We saw Capuchin and Howler monkeys, long-nosed bats clinging to a tree trunk, several exotic birds and most importantly, American crocodiles.

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Boat Ride Collage 2

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Boat Ride Collage 1

Because there was no “boat safety briefing”, we lightly joked with the kids to be sure and keep their hands inside the boat. When our captain dangled a raw chicken leg off the side…. it became all too clear that there was no joke involved. CROCODILES CAN FRIGGIN’ JUMP!

Croc About to Eat Raw Chicken

Just look at this 6 foot monster, AND he was one of the smaller ones. I’m not kidding when I tell y’all that all 6 of us screamed when that thing sprung about 4 feet out of the water and up the side of the boat.

Maybe we should spend the rest of our time relaxing at the resort…….and relax we did. Pool time and beach time were only interupted by meals and adult beverages.

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James and Maddie on Playa Tamarindo

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Before we left, Maddie and I checked off her map of all the Costa Rican wildlife we’d seen in person.

James and Maddie Go over Her List of Animals

We saw a LOT of exotic animals, insects and birds; Coatimundi, giant moths, so many iguana, hummingbirds (even one on a nest), verigated squirels, racoons, bats, capuchin and howler monkeys, harlequin beetles, sloths, a few unexpected snakes, caiman, frogs of all sizes, butterflies for days, and of course…crocodiles.

It was such a treat to travel with these kids and see everything through their small eyes.

The last vacation we all took together, to Seaside Florida 4 years ago, Maddie was just a baby and I don’t think she enjoyed the trip very much. I told her that when I was her age the most exotic vacation I ever took was to my grandparent’s house in Ohio, and the Toledo Zoo.

She thought I was kidding.

She’s been to the Louvre.

Happy 10 year anniversary Pecks.

Where are we going for the 20th?

 

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The Neon Boneyard

Posted by James on April 10, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Las Vegas, Neon Boneyard, Old School Vegas, The Neon Museum. 8 Comments

We’ve each been to Vegas a few times. Mostly for work, but sometimes just to “get away”. This past weekend was a little of both.

Rarely do either of us leave the confines of Las Vegas Blvd. With so much to see and do there, why would we?

Well, we found a good reason…..The Neon Museum.

Just a little north of downtown Las Vegas and Fremont St., about a $20 cab ride (including the “Vegas Standard” $3 fee for using a credit card), is where dismantled neon signage goes to live a second life.

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The lobby of the Neon Museum is the beautifully restored 1961 lobby of the La Concha Motel.

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I think y’all will agree that this building was well worth preserving. It was actually cut into 6 sections just to move it to this location. It’s a brilliant start to the 2 acres of donated casino/restaurant/bar signage. Our tour guide, Jezelle, was an absolute encyclopedia of knowledge about each and every sign and letter in the collection; the marque designers, the record breakers, the excentric casino owners, the hidden meaning behind each font, and the impact each sign had on the history of Las Vegas.

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When it was erected in 1968, the Stardust Casino sign was the tallest in the world; reaching 188 feet. With its “atomic age” font, this beauty’s still a standout of the collection….and one of our favorites too.

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This 15 foot pool player was once wearing a Hawaiian shirt, but was later upgraded to a red plaid flannel….a few decades in the Vegas sun later, he looks like he’s wearing a little of both.

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Our pictures don’t even come close to showing the scale of some of these rusty giants. This Jackpot Motel sign was one of the smaller ones. (and would fit nicely in our backyard)

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It’s in this Museum that these now-defunct casinos – the Sahara, Aladdin, Flamingo, Stardust, Golden Nugget, Horseshoe, Sassy Sally’s, Riviera, Moulin Rouge and the Tropicana – and the art of their neon/electric signage that made each a unique addition to the Vegas skyline, will never be forgotten.

Do yourself a favor the next time you’re in Vegas, step away from the tourists for a few hours and go see these gems.

You’re welcome,

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HAPPY EASTER

Posted by James on April 1, 2018
Posted in: New Home. 7 Comments

HAPPY EASTER

Hef and the Bunnys

May you be surrounded by bunnys.

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Tim,

Posted by James on March 26, 2018
Posted in: New Home. 48 Comments

For the past couple of days I’ve been numb.

A dear friend of mine died in his sleep over the weekend; possible heart complications. To say that it was unexpected is a severe understatement. People talk about being struck by a ton of bricks…..this was a fucking pallet of grand pianos.

I met Tim at Texas Tech during a fall rush party when we were both in our late teens. It was during those formidable years when we were both still trying to figure out where we fit in this world – the suburban straight world we’d each grown up in…and were still living in. Tim was all round face and a booming personality. He was loud. And when he got excited, he was even louder. We hit if off immediately talking about dance music, Polo ties, and Molly Ringwald movies and he quickly became my “Rush Baby” (the one guy that I was determined to snatch away from the other frats). I did too. In early December of 1989, Tim became more than a friend; he became my brother. I knew we were both alike, surrounded by all that masculine “bro” energy of a fraternity only brought us closer together. While the other guys were doing keg-stands, playing volleyball and chasing the poon’, we were thumbing through GQ magazines and shopping for Clinique. Although we never talked about it, I knew we both shared the same big secret.

There was a code in the music we listened to. Queer pop was suddenly main stream; the Pet Shop Boys, the Cure, George Michael, the B52’s, Depeche Mode, REM and especially Erasure. Tim was a fanatic for Erasure. What he didn’t dare say out loud…..his choice in music did for him.

I left school before he did, our lives shifted and we didn’t talk for about 25 years.

A few years ago Tim found me on Facebook and met me at my hotel bar one night while I was working in Houston. I had a couple beers, he nursed a Diet Coke while we caught up. We talked about music and how our favorite groups were still touring. We talked about our families. We talked about the car wreck that changed his outlook on life. How we had both battled with depression (his caused him to balloon to over 300 pounds and the day he decided to change that.) We talked about some bad choices we’d each made, and a few good ones, ex’s who had taken advantage of our kind natures – and how I’d finally found the man I plan to spend the rest of my life with, jobs lost, opportunities taken, and mostly the comfort we each found in finally being our true selves.

Even apart for all those years, our journeys towards discovering who we really were had been strikingly similar.

And now we were both gay middle-aged survivors of our 20’s and 30’s slowing down slightly and creeping towards the big Five-O without a need to pretend for anybody anymore.

Still brothers.

Tim moved to Dallas a few years ago and although we weren’t in constant contact we’d get together every few months for a steak dinner or a birthday; maybe a movie. He would text me almost daily, usually snarking on things our crazy frat brothers were posting on Facebook or just because there was a song playing that he hadn’t heard in 30 years.

The last time I saw Tim was on Christmas Eve; a big night for me when I open my home to the people whom I’m closest too in my life. We talked for a while in front of the fire, and as usual, he was one of the last to leave; by then it was technically Christmas morning. We hugged at the door, he wished me a “Merry Christmas”, and I never saw him again….

Cue that pallet of pianos,

Goodnight Tim,

You will be missed….

This is for you.

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Essential Movie Scratch-Off

Posted by James on March 4, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Movies, Top 100 Movies. 3 Comments

In honor of the Academy Awards this evening,

Have I got an idea for you.

“100 Must See Movies” have been expertly conceived as a scratch off poster.

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After you watch each film, simply scratch off the top image to reveal all the details.

No cheating now,

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It’s kinda hard to believe that Star Wars and Gone With the Wind didn’t make the cut (2 of my absolute favorite movies) but they obviously didn’t consult with me.

So, if you love watching classic movies…

And you love documenting them scratch-off lottery ticket style…

Then this is THE poster for you.

Get yours today from Pop Chart Lab.

(This is not a paid advertisement, but if the Pop Chart Lab people are pleased and want to thank me for the unsolicited endorsement…..one of these posters would work very nicely)

 

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Tank? We don’t Need No Stinking Tank

Posted by James on January 21, 2018
Posted in: New Home. Tagged: Tankless Water Heater. 14 Comments

It has been brought to my attention that we have a serious lack of hot water.

I, personally, have never experienced this issue.

I wake up first, shower first, and enjoy all the hot water my little heart desires in a morning soap-down. Apparently, this doesn’t work the same way for anyone else living in the Cavender House. When Jamie stumbles into the shower, shortly after me, the hot water has been reduced to just a small trickle – especially obvious on chilly mornings. This last week, the temps in Dallas dipped down to the TEENS.

Not exactly luke-warm trickle shower weather.

But don’t y’all worry about Jamie.

This week we solved his dilemma……well, Home Depot solved it.

We are now a “Tankless Water-Heater Kinda Family”.

Good timing to, our old water heater (from 2004) didn’t have many more miles left on her.

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Now we’re working with this…

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Beautiful, ain’t she?

Should be……she cost as much as a used car.

Welcome to the 21st century Cavender house.

I now decree, “Endless hot showers for all!”

 

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